Carly and Buck never thought adoption was in the cards for them. But nothing about parenting has gone the way the couple has expected. Despite fear and confusion, the Giles have stepped out in faith to build their beautiful family without regrets.
Carly and her husband started trying for a baby a year into their marriage. A couple of years went by without success, along with a miscarriage in 2014. After another year, Carly and Buck decided to talk to an adoption agency. They raised the money they needed for their application before feeling a check in their hearts. "We felt like we needed to put a pause on submitting our adoption application. I felt really confused and was questioning God at this point," says Carly. "5 days after we announced to family and friends that we would be adopting, my mom called about a 2 month old baby in foster care."
Carly had no interest in foster care at the time, but the idea had been planted. Two weeks later, a couple of friends asked Carly if she had prayed about the baby. Reluctantly, Carly decided she could do that much and began praying. "I didn't feel anything right away," she reflects. "But then I remember being at work at my desk and God was saying, 'that's your baby and you need to act now.'"
That's all it took for Carly and Buck to fly into action. They met with the baby's social worker the next day. Within three weeks, baby Henry was placed into Carly's arms. "I felt like a babysitter for a couple of weeks," remembers Carly. "We had so much support and people donating baby items. And even though it felt weird at first, I remember meeting Henry and being so excited and thinking, 'this is my baby! Finally he's here.'"
Carly wrote in her journal that week, "We're parents. Henry was brought to our home today, and he is the most precious and beautiful and perfect baby. When he came in I cried, and when I held him, I cried. It's just so unreal...but real? It's really nice right now, just the 3 of us. I'm not scared, it feels right. I feel peace and love, and I'm so excited for my love for Henry to grow."
March 2017 the adoption was finalized. But the twist of events wasn't over. A few months later, Carly took a pregnancy test to discover she had another baby on the way! "Honestly, I was pissed!" chuckles Carly. "We had just sent an email about wanting to adopt again. Buck was excited, but I had mixed emotions. I almost felt like this baby had taken another child's spot in our family. I was afraid I would feel differently for our biological baby than we did for Henry. I was terrified I would love one more than the other and about people treating the kids differently from each other. I gradually became more excited even though it was a difficult pregnancy with complications. But then baby John arrived and I fell in love," smiles Carly.
Contrary to her fears, there's no discrepancy in Carly's love for her boys. And while parenting has it's challenges, she loves being a mom and thinks that she and Buck will adopt again. "Adoption is a part of Henry's and our story, but it doesn't define our relationship. Adoption was never something I thought we would do - I always thought it was something rich people or people with unusually big hearts did...but not for me,"
Going through foster care, she and Buck learned just how many resources there were for people looking to adopt. "We realized there are so many more kids out there in need of a home and we want to adopt again. Any baby that comes in our home we are going to love. People tell us that Henry is so lucky to be in our family. But he's not. It's the other way around - we are the lucky ones."